23 Jul 2017

Chase the Lifestyle, NOT the Money!

Around 2008 when I lost everything I ever had my best friend (who was worth $100M at the time) also lost everything gambling against oil prices etc

Over the next few years I focused on rebuilding myself as well as my wealth…

My friend however focused purely on hustling his way to become a Billionaire like his elitist peers in the oil industry.

We only ever met a few times a year in London as we both travelled a lot and he was just too busy hustling his way around the world with diplomats and heads of government.

I spent most of my time reconnecting with my family, friends and those that inspired me while making a decent living.

The last time we sat down together for dinner at a very posh restaurant in Mayfair my friend had mentioned to me that he was one mega deal to becoming a Billionaire and that he wanted to gift me a Bugatti, he even picked out the colours and showed me the brochure!

I declined and said that I had everything I needed in life to be truly happy, but he still wanted to gift the Bugatti to me…

A few days later he called me to say that the deal that he hustled all those years for went through and he was now a Billionaire and wanted to throw a lavish party.

Excited to see my friend I started organising my flight back to London when I got a call the day after with some tragic news…

My best friend who was only 35 had a massive heart attack in a black cab on the way back from his office and died…

The ironic part was that when I visited his funeral his entire family approached me and asked if he was ok? as over the past years he spent hustling he was hardly around his own family and friends…

This really taught me a LOT about not to spend my whole life hustling just to chase the money!

Instead chasing the lifestyle is what’s more important…


  • Thierry
    February 23, 2016 Reply

    Yes its tough. Its a balance. Im sorry to hear about your friend Sohail. Im trying to hustle myself, while maintining my relatonships with my wife (as we just got married) as well as my friends. My friends fully paid and organized my wedding because I always was around them and gave to them and maintained my relationship with them so they blessed me back with an outstanding wedding. (I have pictures). Currently i am building a huge database of businesses and looking for joint venture partners that have . But im looking for partners that will also become friends. Life is too short. My new website is Business growth strategies. Net Sohail please contact me if you wish. I really like your persona. Down to earth and humble. Hope to hear from you one day soon. Thierry Bodinate. – linkedin

  • Cheryl
    February 23, 2016 Reply

    Thanks for being transparent and sharing your story to help many of us to stay focus and balance. There is great success that we all desire to achieve but success without balance and happiness is empty. We have to be happy and content with our small and great achievements and not forget to enjoy the journey of life and success along the way. Material things can be lost at any moment but the relationships and lives that you impact will never forget the imprint and impression of the legacy made by you on them. Our life is but a vapor and for a moment we must live it well and live it balanced and leave a lasting impression of love.

  • Mike Rosbrough
    February 23, 2016 Reply

    Sohail. I learned in my 50’s what you learned in 08. I think most of us listen and pay attention at some point in our lives. I’m sure that you are in agreement that the world is morphing into something different than we expected.; leaving us intensely focused on the world our children will live in . I’m sure you spend a lot of time thinking of that since you are a new dad. Sorry to you over the loss of your friend. Thanks for sharing

  • Eva
    February 23, 2016 Reply

    So true Sohail! Great post. Thank you.

  • Jim Outridge
    February 23, 2016 Reply

    Hi Sohail , firstly sorry of you the loss of your friend , Never easy as I know from my own experience
    I agree with you and know success in life is more about the balance of life , family, freinds, as you suggest
    We should actually enjoying our own lives as life is so short.
    Money itself is the tool to give you flexibility agree but without that balance life is empty
    Thanks Sohail for sharing
    jim outridge .linkned in

  • Patricia Kaehler
    February 24, 2016 Reply

    I find your words and visioin for what you want
    from life – resonate with me… I’m sorry for your loss.
    Reminds us all of how fleeting our time. How important
    it is to maximize time by working smarter not harder,
    working in tandem when possible…
    My passion is finding super domain names for others
    for their projects… It’s the mother-hen in me to want
    the new folks coming in to get a good start with
    super domains… It’s the big boys that come and buy
    most of mine before the young bucks get a chance at
    the catchy, short, brandable, killer domains I sell.
    But I do so like to help the startups with
    great names – and then to watch their companies prosper.
    My online addictions are: LinkedIN.com/domainbell Facebook.com/patricia.kaehler and
    of course Twitter.com/DomainBELL
    Stay in touch Sohail (smile)
    Me: Patricia Kaehler DomainBELL@Yahoo.com

  • bill gallacher
    February 24, 2016 Reply

    life work balance has gone astray for many people. Your post brings a sad reality to the situation. Great post Sohail.


  • Ron Harvey
    February 24, 2016 Reply

    How very poignant. The money follows as a result of the value of our lives. Our lives should not be the result of following money.

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